Is Reduction of Aggression Part of the Path?

How much does aggression beget more aggression? How much does peace beget more peace?

With so much aggression in the world, how important is it to reduce aggression in oneself? There's hidden aggression towards ourselves when we try "to fix" some aspect of ourselves in an almost punishing kind of way that involves guilt and shame: It's like we lack faith that things kind of progress in a certain direction on their own and in their own time, much like how a baby learns to walk or learns how to talk.

We have aggression towards states of discomfort. We want to blame or lash out or run away from anything or anyone we view as a source of discomfort. We're filled with fear, anger, and aggression towards perceived threats. When dealing with others, there's often a game of tit for tat, getting locked into cycles of aggression. We try to punish in various ways: We try to shame, we try to hurt, we try to withhold. Aggression becomes a tangled mess...

And if we do refrain and use forbearance, how do we know we're not just burying aggression, only for it to fester up later with a different kind of vengeance and force? At what point is an action truly transformative? How do we know we're not just putting walls up or running away in a type of avoidance.

Perhaps the process is something truly individual in that it happens without having to be seen by others? There's no need for some type of reference point. Maybe certain ways of being "just are" on their own. Perhaps when we're working from a different place from within it just is, without the need for any type of audience. Each moment standing on its own.