Sunday, August 3, 2014

Hidden Self-Aggression

Hidden self-aggression is something I must still explore.  During times of major hurt, I find I have a tendency to think I'm broken, that I need to be fixed.  I find I am punishing towards myself.  I begin to expose major self-loathing that exists within me.  Feelings of "not being enough" rise to the surface.  At my self-aggression's peak, I wish to not exist, thinking the world would be better off without me.

I'm still unsure how to achieve gentleness with myself.  I've seen some clues in a meditation practice of following the outbreath, and gently coming back when going off course.  But I'm unsure how to apply that to my daily living.  Can I really gently come back, without aggression towards myself?  I struggle with self-punishment, yet I also know I'm at my best when I'm gentle with myself.  The irony is that self-punishment is an attempt to "bring out the best" in myself.

How can I remember that the best appears when involved in a gentle process?  Do I need continuous faith?  Do I need to drop self-concern?  Do I need to let go and trust in something more?

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