My Violent Resistance of the Mind

I have a tendency to try to interpret what others want. Sometimes I am correct, and other times I am not. If ever I interpret that the other is demanding something of me, as a strategy to protect my own desired autonomy, I tend to violently resist by withholding that thing I believe they are asking for. I will completely refuse, pitting my desire against the desire I believe they are demanding to have met.

I suppose the way out for me is to recognize my own wants, and how I go about making demands through my own violent resistance of the mind.

Grief and Loss

Over the years of dealing with unexpected loss of connections and relationships, and then dealing with the fallout... I have learned that the only choice is to keep going despite the pain from the initial loss... to keep going even if pain lingers... Keep going, even if I don't know where is all I can do...

"Don't Think of Purple Elephants": Focus and Fixation

"Don't think of purple elephants"... "Don't think of polka dots..."

I wonder what the implications are regarding what we focus on. Our minds tend to produce all images related to the words think of or speak. In our minds we see all words, possibly affecting all facets of our perception: The more we speak or think the words, the more our minds might become focused or fixated on that thing that started in the imagination.... Every perceived thought, every perceived interpretation... potentially shaping our vision, our attitudes, and our actions. The images in the mind, potentially become the lenses which we see the world with. The world... a reflection of our own minds...

Gravitational Pull

For those things I tend to be drawn to, it seems if I stray away for a period of time, I develop longing and find myself wanting to come back once more.

First World Solutions

In this modern world I live in, I can satisfy my desire to indulge and my need to move physically at the same time: A screen to indulge and binge watch my favorite shows combined with a stationary exercise machine... lazy indulgence combines with physical exercise

Our Unconscious Self-Preservation Drive

Our own unconscious self-preservation drive often blinds us to seeing the preservation drive that exists in others like ourselves to the point where we don't acknowledge others as being the same as us... that they too have the same wishes...

Tennis Lessons

Tennis offers up a very tangible view of the effects of the mind. The best tennis that resides within us happens when the mind is free and clear. When we want a desired result but without grasping too tightly. Directing focus on the task at hand, rather than the outcome yet to be, helps to free up the mind, which also helps to free up the body to do what it already knows how to do.

Tennis lets us know when we feel at our Best. Our best effort comes when we are focused, free, and have faith. Our best solidly hit strokes occur when we are able to reach this state mentally. Having faith in the act and free from fear related to our imagined self-images, we experience a different way of being.

Culture, Art, and Religion

Culture, Art, and Religion are the mediums we humans use to access the more unconscious parts of ourselves... the part that is More than just ourselves.

Uprooted

Sometimes a plant can be uprooted, then replanted in another area and thrive.
Sometimes when a plant is uprooted, then replanted it dies.
Timing, territory, and root strength all contribute to the possible outcome.

Pathfinding: Find One's Path, then Let Go

Find one's path, but hold lightly
Deepen the groove while simultaneously letting go

Our own Piece of The Flame

We all have our own piece of The Flame
When cultivated, it shines brightly
But as a fragment, it only shines directionally
The intensity of our light, casts dark shadows
It is with the aid of others that we can be more aware
More aware of the shadows we cast
As well as the light that we shine